Most of the time, we make an effort of categorising people between the good and the bad, the selfish and the selfless, winners or losers. It’s not our fault though. Our nature is a product of years of conditioning by parents, teachers and the society.
So, in our formative years, we not only learn to react in a negative or positive way when we meet somebody and but also classify him under a category.
As grown ups, opinions are formed almost instantaneously. We are judging everything around us into good and bad. Our critical faculties are on the job 24/7 that is to include the time we are sleeping too. Isn’t that amazing?
How many of us accept people as they are without being too judgemental. I would say a handful of us.
A person’s nature is quite dependent on his current circumstances. To judge a man’s character for what he truly is when he interacts with you is bound to be biased. The reason is simple.
When life is normal and relaxed, our personality is at its best. We present a cool and calm demeanour that is so attractive to others. But as soon as problems start to crawl into our merry lives, we become the very person we are not.
That is to say, problems that linger on for a while transform our personalities and force us to acquire a negative self image about ourselves. The emotional state of mind is not balanced. Stress causes irritability, anger, constant nagging, shouting, complaining and withdrawal from society. Negative thinking, doubts and fears take a front seat. We lose our self confidence.
A few qualities that can pull you out from that little well that you fell into and help you see light are mentioned below.
1.Politeness and kindness: Try to be polite and kind. Everybody has problems whether it’s financial, emotional, physical or spiritual. The key is to shift the focus from your own self to the people around you.
2.Humility and compassion: Be humble and understanding always. To be non-judgemental and compassionate towards another human being requires self-discipline and courage.
3.Positive thinking: Do not to feel pressurised thinking about your problems and grievances. It will get solved as time passes. Practicing positive thinking and positive self image paves the way towards a positive outlook.
4.Faith and patience: It is not what might happen that you should worry about. It is what you can do. And even after you have done all that you possibly could, have faith and patience.
5. Courage: Problems always bring out the worst in us. When under stress, build the courage to bounce back. Promise yourself that you will get yourself out of the rut and live a normal and happy life again.
