How many times has it happened that you are talking about something to somebody and they can’t understand a single thing you are saying. And by the time you are done, the other person asks you a very stupid question. It makes you want to jump from a 10 storey building…but there is hope because you are not the only one who feels that way.

Most of us have experienced that. So I decided this time, I am going to go in detail as to why, I end up getting misunderstood. As I see it, there can be three scenarios…either I have major communication drawbacks or the person I am talking to has limited knowledge or we could not establish a connection. Don’t worry; I’m not talking about a phone line or internet connection, God, No!! This connection is established on a one to one basis because of something more profound that is destiny. I call it Kismet connection.

Whatever the case may be, I am going to make sure I find a solution to this. And I know it will work, if you have the patience to follow them.

First approach: You don’t make your point immediately. You know what I mean. Just talk about anything under the sun except the point you want to make. Go round and round the garden in circles until your listener questions you, “what are you trying to say?” See, there you go!! You have his undivided attention now.

Second approach: Talk in a group. Make a point to your listener when you are around people you know. This way, you will have supporters who agree with you and the discussion will be at a more impersonal level. This protects you from direct confrontation too.

Third approach: If only, you did not have pre-conceived notions about somebody, you would be so much better off. There is nothing better than being child like…innocent and upfront. There will be misunderstandings but at least your listeners will be disarmed by your approach and not be uptight.

Fourth approach: Go all out to make your listener laugh. Now that will be a quite a challenge. But humor works. You probably must be thinking, I am taking you on a long ride and these approaches are not going to take you anywhere. Believe me, I have a hard time following them too, but when I do, it sure as hell works.

Fifth approach: Get enthusiastic. Its like wild fire and sooooo contagious, your listener will be mesmerized by your energy and like to listen to what you have to say and may even become your followers. People like energetic people.

You may try my approaches which are simple or find new ones. Whatever, your experience, I would really want to get feedback from all of you readers out there.